22 Responses to “When do you tell family/friends when you get a positive pregnancy test?”

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   dereksangel417 March 29th, 2009 at 8:29 am

   Atleast after the first trimester.

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   mellost March 29th, 2009 at 10:36 pm

   It depends on you and you husband or boyfriend. Some people like to wait until they are further along like after three months b/c the risk of miscarriage drops, but it depends on you.

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   krazy_gal04 April 1st, 2009 at 11:21 am

   I’ve never been pregnant, but when I do get pregnant, I plan on telling my parents around 8 weeks into the pregnancy!!

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   let_me_show_u_how_i_love_u April 3rd, 2009 at 1:57 pm

   I would tell immediate family right away. I would wait until after I’ve been to the doctor to tell friends & co-workers.

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   me April 4th, 2009 at 7:38 am

   It depends on whether that positive test was done by a doctor or your own home bought variety. I would wait until the results were 100% accurate, i.e., a doctor’s visit. Then I would share with everyone, family first, friends and co-workers next! Best wishes =)

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   Meg April 5th, 2009 at 3:37 am

   My sister told her immediate family (i.e. me, my mom, and my sister) immediately. She waited until after she was two months to tell everyone else in the family and she waited until she started to show to share the information with her co-workers. She did it this way just in case she were to have a miscarriage.

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   momatttexas April 5th, 2009 at 3:33 pm

   That all depends on you. I couldn’t stand to wait and we told everyone at a party. There were so many of our friends there and it was an extra reason to celebrate.

   Good Luck

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   Lex April 6th, 2009 at 1:03 pm

   whenever ur ready

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   kfhintx April 6th, 2009 at 8:50 pm

   I would say wait until the end of your first trimester (when you’re 12 weeks). That’s when you’re chances of a miscarriage are much lower. This is speaking from personal experience. It’s the most horrible experience to tell people you’re pregnant and then go back a few weeks later and tell them “nevermind”.

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    Kathrine E April 10th, 2009 at 12:21 am

    Tell family right away- after your first doctor’s visit to confirm the positive. Then tell your friends and co-workers as you see fit.

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    SomeoneSpecial April 10th, 2009 at 1:58 am

    I would wait until ur about 3 months along so if something happens then you want have to explain things

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    laragans757 April 12th, 2009 at 8:38 am

    My first pregnancy I told them right away. My second one I waited about 3 months and told them during Thanksgiving dinner while the whole family was together. I told friends and co-workers a couple of weeks after I told my family in both cases.

    My friend kept her pregnancy a secret until she was 20 weeks along because she’d had a miscarriage just 2 months before becoming pregnant the second time. She had told everyone about the first pregnancy as soon as she knew the results and the second time around she didn’t feel like going through the pain of telling everyone she’d lost another baby if the same thing happened again, so she waited until it was viable and likely to survive if born early.
    When you tell depends on your own exeriences and expectations. Will you be treated differently at work once they find out? Do you have a high risk pregnancy? Are you really excited and want to spread the word right away? You have to take into account a bunch of things before you make your own decision on when to tell.

    Good luck! Congrats!

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    rockchick13 April 12th, 2009 at 11:25 pm

    First of all, congratulations! Obviously, you would want to first confirm the positive pregnancy test with the doctor’s office via a blood test. Before or right after, I would definately tell your boyfriend/husband. The two of you should make the decision of when and how to tell others. But…first of this group should be families. First yours, then his-but make sure they are back-to-back, otherwise someone might accidentally ruin the surprise. You don’t want anyone to feel out of the loop. Then, your friends and finally, co-workers. But, remember, gossip in the workplace spreads like wild fire. Make sure you tell your immediate supervisor first, because he or she might want to discuss when/how much maternity leave you want to take. Don’t let your supervisor find out from a co-worker because it will look like you are dishonest. Tell the supervisor, then co-workers. As for how many weeks into the pregnancy, you want to make sure that the baby is healthy and pregnancy is normal. I would wait a few weeks, probably 9 or 10. I know the wait will be difficult, but (god forbid) something went wrong, i.e. miscarriage, etc., it would cause you more stress to tell everyone you are pregnant and then have to tell them otherwise. Hopefully, your obgyn will tell you everything is fine. So, after 2 appts. I would go ahead and tell everyone. Congrats and I wish you a happy, healthy, pregnancy and baby!

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    ashskydev95 April 13th, 2009 at 7:41 pm

    You should tell them when they are all in a good mood because than if they are in a bad mood they might get extremely mad.

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    happy_mommy April 15th, 2009 at 3:39 pm

    hi, well i did not say anything till about i was 8 to 10 weeks. or untill your belly shows. some times natures things happen. which you hope nothing bad does. but oh well that’s me. hope it helps. congrats if you are.

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    airforcewifece April 17th, 2009 at 6:59 am

    If you can keep a secret well, then after eight weeks!
    Good Luck

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    chay April 19th, 2009 at 11:11 am

    I would wait until I’m at least 8 weeks

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    Hope April 19th, 2009 at 9:49 pm

    I agree with what seems to be the majority; after your first tri-mester. Congratulations.

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    shortylilblack31906 April 21st, 2009 at 8:08 pm

    i told my mom the day i found out when you feel comtable

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    momof3 April 21st, 2009 at 10:05 pm

    A HUGE Congrats to you…that is big news. Well you told us, so I think that means you are almost ready.

    I think you should share the news when your HEART tells you to do so. I understand that some people wait the 12 weeks- just in case. BUT- Those 12 weeks can be nerve racking and I think it helps to have a strong support group surrounding you. Plus, if God forbid anything should happen, you’ll need shoulders to cry on.

    However, share the news with your friends and family and limit whom you tell at work. No need to stress out your boss or co-workers!

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    *sHoRtY* April 25th, 2009 at 7:14 am

    depends if its a home test until you go with your doctor and confirm that you are pregnant

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    mommy April 26th, 2009 at 1:38 pm

    I would wait until the first trimester is over. I was pregnant and started telling people at 8 weeks, then I lost it at 9 weeks. Trust me…its hard, but in the end, its better to wait.