9 Responses to “Pregnancy & Family: Advice please?”

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   baby on the way! April 2nd, 2009 at 10:20 am

   yeah, my grandma did the same thing, and i had been married 3 years! She later apologized and said she was just worried and wants the best. So this last time that i told her i was pregnant i told her that i was very happy and she could choose to be or not and that i loved her but i was very excited about our baby. She was good to go, cant wait to hear the whole mother in law thing……GOD BLESS and congrats!!!!!!!

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   ?Due In November? April 4th, 2009 at 8:11 am

   It doesn’t matter what other people think, thank God that you two have eachother. I’m pregnant and my boyfriend left me when he found out, today I found out he made a match.com account and is out dating… You are so lucky to at least have support from eachother. I would love to have what you have. My family wasn’t thrilled when I told them I was pregnant, but they are coming around to the idea… My mom even bought me baby clothes this week, and just 2 months ago she said she couldn’t even look at me the same because she was so disgusted that I was pregnant and alone…
   So just give everyone time, and until then, you have eachother. Just enjoy your pregnancy and don’t stress because that is unhealthy for your baby.
   You sound great and I’m sure you’re a strong person, you’ll get through this and everyone will see that baby as a blessing!

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   Sherry B April 6th, 2009 at 7:24 pm

   Well, I will do what your family is unwilling or unable to do…offer my sincere congratulations!!! Give them time, don’t hold it against them. They will probably come around with time. If not, it’s their loss. Good luck, I am happy for you both!
   ***EDIT***
   PS- Move away from the MIL!!! QUICK!!!

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   ?Almost Mrs Fike ? April 8th, 2009 at 4:29 am

   I am so sorry! Sounds like your family is a bunch of *****…no offence but thats so mean. If they want to be that way then fine. you and your husband start your family with the poeple who care and love you and your family! you don’t need people around you like that. It literally breaks my heart that they had such horrible reactions…But I really wish you the best of luck and ignor them…your baby will bring you more joy than they could ever! Good luck and God bless?

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   me April 9th, 2009 at 8:19 am

   i know its not easy but just try not to let it bother you now they are all likely to change their minds after they see that little baby. You don’t have time to think about them YOUR HAVING A BABY!!!!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!!! congrats and the best of luck.

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   Miriam April 12th, 2009 at 12:17 pm

   When I first told my mom that I was pregnant she said, “Oh well.”
   ….I cried and cried and cried, and even when I was pregnant with my second son and she seemed a little happier, I still cried over her saying, “Oh well.” when I announced the news the first time around.(5 years later!)
   Nobody else in the family was happy for us or said congrats and I dont think people realize how badly that stings. Theres not much you can do about it but give it time. They may not seem happy about it now but once your beautiful baby is born he/she will melt their hearts and they’ll realize what buttheads they were. Just try your best to forget about what anyone else may think – you and your husband are happy, you have every right to be so dont let anyone else spoil this special time for you. They’ll come around. And if they dont then you just have to tell yourself that those arent the kind of people you want your child growing up around.

   Best of luck! and CONGRATULATIONS!! =]

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   babestaa April 15th, 2009 at 6:11 pm

   OMG!!! this is horrible! i cant believe they would say this about their grandchild and their son’s child…or any child, but especially a new addition to their family. i just found out i was pregnant a week ago, and everyone including my boyfriend is saying similar things like your guys’ families…gah. the only one who supports me is my mom but im 18 so at the same time shes still uneasy. anyways, how will they feel if he or she knew this is how they felt about their own grandchild…anyways, sorry im venting because this is horrible and i can relate.
   now i think you need to do what im doing, be strong and just have that f u c k y o u attitude. let them know how it makes you feel and how crappy it is of them.
   also when i called the doctor after taking 2 home pregnancy tests and asked about their accuracy, they told me those are RARELY wrong and she hasnt seen one that has been in her personal experience..so dont even worry…and as far as false positives go, i just dont think a test can read a hormone that isnt there. soo im pretty sure your pregnant!!
   so congratualtions and i hope you have a happy healthy pregnancy!!!
   much love
   -erin

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   aljea April 17th, 2009 at 4:58 am

   I am thinking your family doesn’t like it because they think you husband is retarded and think it is a shame you having his baby. And his family thinks hes retarded so it a shame you “made” him get you pregnant…
   But you no what its not true and dont care what they think. You two are married. This is you and your husbands business and no one elses. I know it ***** not having your family to back you up. Just remember you have your hubby and you two WILL be great parents. I think in time wither when you are pregnant or after the baby is born then they will see it as a blessing as well and will see you are a great mother and he is a greeat father…and if they dont, who cares…you guys are happy about the pregnancy, right? Well thats all that matters.

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   Iridescent Leuko April 17th, 2009 at 1:49 pm

   I would call them out on their selfish and insensitive behavior.

   Okay, I’m a bit of a grumpy person, but even if I were an extremely nice one this situation would leave a really bad taste in my mouth.

   What gives them the right to trample your happiness? What gives the right to JUDGE you and your life? What gives any of them the right to hurt you at this very special time.. this very sensitive time?!?!

   I’d be heartbroken too — but after that I would just plain be furious.

   Call them out on their bad behavior! Tell them they can eat their horrible thoughts with a side of kiss my pretty @ss, and until they can behave like HUMAN BEINGS they can stay out of your life.

   Honestly, what good are they to you with such terrible thoughts and judgments about you?!

   I’d wait until they get their heads on straight to let them around me. Their bad energy alone could cause you to miscarry.. but all of this behind-the-back talk and all of these horrible comments to your FACE even is just.. it’s too much bad energy hun. You need it out of your life right now.

   Make a nest with your husband and those who are truly supportive. Tempt your family once in a while though to be nice.. Send them a picture of the sonogram that you will later get..

   Personally, I think if you tell them how much they’ve hurt you and that this is YOUR LIFE and you have every right to be HAPPY in it? They will back down and shut up. They need to back down and shut up… now.. before I throw things at them.

   Congratulations, truly!!