11 Responses to “when to announce pregnancy to parents/close family?”

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   starrwoode March 28th, 2009 at 3:18 pm

   tell them now but also tell them not to get too excited because you are concerned about the last let down, so soon enough to pray for you, after 3 months then you can all go out and start buying baby things. blessed be

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   abmainer March 30th, 2009 at 9:41 am

   Wow, you have alot going on! I’d probably wait til 12 weeks if you want to be safe. That way if something does happen you don’t have to go through explaining to everyone. On the other hand you might want the support. I don’t know about the ultrasound info. Good luck!

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   jnnfchar April 2nd, 2009 at 6:45 am

   What are you in a rush for? Slow down your making me dizzy! Usually pregnant women wait until their three months pregnant to tell family and friends. However, I’m gathering that you want the world to know and you wanted them to know yesterday! I’m questioning your age. I would guess you to be between 18-20 years old. You have the rest of your life. Chill out…..

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   momof2kiddos April 3rd, 2009 at 7:22 am

   Congrats. It sounds like this is something you really have put a lot of effort into, especially since your last disappointment.

   If I were in your situation, I would tell my Mom and Dad, and leave it at that. Let them know that you are still uncertain if this one will progress as you desire, so to please keep it on the down low, until you are past this delicate stage of preg.

   I think at least having your parents in the know, and on your side would be of emotional support to you. And weather a pregnancy is successful, or not, it is always important to have love and support.

   After your doc does the 8 wk ultrasound he has promised, and everything ‘looks good’, then I’d say it’s time to announce to everyone you know. )

   Good luck!

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   BandMom April 4th, 2009 at 6:33 pm

   My personal opinion is to wait until you are sure the pregnancy is viable. I know the difficulty of having to break the news of a miscarriage. Only people who have suffered it can be truly supportive. If they haven’t had a miscarriage, they really don’t understand the great loss you feel. As far as the ultrasound before 8 weeks, probably not gonna happen. The best part is not seeing the heartbeat, but hearing it for the first time. Good luck and God bless.

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   barbie&joe April 5th, 2009 at 6:03 am

   you already miscarried once, the last thing you need is stress if you really want this baby. Tell your family and friends, they will give you love and support, that’s what you need right now to help you with every thing you have to do. If your dr. said you have to wait until 8 weeks, that is what you should do. things are happening real fast right now, take each day as it comes. You want this baby or you would have been using b.c, after your last micarry. You and baby come before anything or anybody. Hope things turn out ok.

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   Sarah April 8th, 2009 at 2:51 am

   I’m sure you could tell your close family, that can’t hurt. But why are you in such a rush? You don’t need to cancel any of those things until you’re sure that you and your baby are safely far enough into the pregnancy… You have several more weeks before you can be sure enough to do anything as drastic as canceling your appartment lease. Didn’t your doctor tell you to wait several months after your miscarriage to even think about trying? You’re only increasing your chances of miscarrying by getting pregnant so soon. You won’t see much in an ultrasound, even at 8 weeks, you really need to relax… Talk to your doctor before you hurt yourself or any more babies… Calm down… wow~

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   waiting for baby April 9th, 2009 at 8:26 am

   I am not been mean did you not learn anything from your last pregnancy (I have 3 misc myself)
   take it easy you are making so much plan relax, breath
   shop for a house, set your wedding daynbut you don’t have to do them at 100 miles an hour the speed limid is 55/65 so slow down, go below the speed limit
   you are not running a marathon you are pregnant and if you want to have a heathly pregnancy & baby you better slow down
   Good luck & Congrats

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   Monica C April 11th, 2009 at 10:28 pm

   Because of your recent miscarriage, I would wait until you are at least 8 weeks and the doctor has been able to establish that everything is alright with the fetus. Women get pregnant all the time, but miscarry because the baby isn’t viable. Because your loss was fairly recent, I would hold off in telling anyone, because this type of announcement may get their hopes up again, and be more devistating than the last time, if it happens again. Your loss is yours alone, and you may want to just deal with it personally between your fiancee and yourself, or with a counselor.
   I am very sorry for your loss. Just try to focus on what you can, and finish up school. It is difficult raising a family and going to school at the same time. Just in case this pregnancy isn’t viable; I am not sure if this or the last pregnancy was planned, but I would try to make sure that everything is settled before you start a family. Babies grow so fast are hard enough to raise and enjoy without adding the complications of a new marriage and house. Although you may be living together, marriage does bring about a new identity and new issues that need to be addressed and adjusted to before you bring a new baby and all the stress that comes from being new parents. However, with that being said, I do wish you good luck! You should be proud that you realize that no matter what, your education is very important, and having the stability within your relationship is extremely important for your unborn child.
   Congratulations!

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    MyLilAubrey6 April 13th, 2009 at 5:01 am

    Its such a personal decision. You have to be ready and comfortable to tell everyone. You can tell different people at different times. Like you can tell close family and friends who you can trust not to say anything that will be there for you in case you do lose this one. Then at around 16 weeks (when the chances significantly decrease) you can tell more people. Or you can wait for some people to just guess and ask you if you are and then you can tell them yes.

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    MummyToBe.07-08-07. April 16th, 2009 at 8:16 am

    i was in the same situation. i miscarried 2 years ago and fell pregnant last november – im 30 weeks, due in august.

    i told my partner 1st obv, told my best friend, and his parents – all when i was 5 weeks. i didnt tell anyone else till after my 12 week scan – not even my parents, for personal reasons.

    every pregnancy is differrent, i had spotting a 5.5 weeks with this baby and i went tot he dr and he scanned me. he was able to see a heartbeat, the gestational sac, checked it was a uterine pregnancy and that there was only 1 baby.

    i had a blighted ovum at 9 weeks and d&c at 12 weeks. there is no reason for you miscarrying again, although i KNOW its hard not to worry, im 30 weeks and still worry. i just tried to keep positive and i had a good feeling about this pregnancy.

    i wish you all the best and im sure you and your baby will be just fine.

    xxx